Confident People Have Insecurities

Confident people haven’t found some mystical secret of getting rid of insecurities. They just start pushing their insecurities aside.

As we grow older, we all need to learn how to stop our insecurities from dictating our actions. It’s not easy to do so even though the solution sounds easy. It’s a simple mindset that differentiates people, but aquiring the mindset and keeping it is what makes confidence hard.

Knowing a few things help me:

– Since everyone has insecurities, nobody is focused on you. They are all constantly thinking about themselves.

– Those who make fun of you for things you are insecure about are probably distracting you from their own sadness, pain, or insecurities. It’s hardly ever as much about you as it is them.

– People can only hurt you as much as you let them. If someone makes fun of you and you reply with ‘and why is that weird’ or ‘so what’ they will be taken aback. If you stand your ground, they won’t be able to shake it hard enough for you to fall.

– Those who do something with confidence are perceived as better at whatever they are doing than someone else who does the same thing without confidence. This is because people take your attitude as an input and if you’re confident about something, they won’t want to be the one to disagree – people are always insecure about seeming wrong.

– Don’t worry about looking dumb or being wrong. Everyone is wrong and only those who haven’t matured blame people for being wrong. Its those who stay wrong that are ignorant, not those who are wrong and learn. Looking dumb and being quirky are only different because in the latter case, the person knows how to laugh at themselves. The same goes with weird and inventive. It’s the attitude you have about yourself that others take away.

TLDR: If you take away one thing from this article, have it be that confident people have insecurities. Nobody is devoid of them entirely. Confidence is about knowing how to not let them rule your actions.

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