You Can Like Yourself Without Being Perfect – and You Should

Just recently, I met up with an old friend of mine. We had kept in touch online but hadn’t met in over six years.

One of the topics of discussion we had was about other old friends we had kept in touch with and we began talking about one of my old friends. This guy was quick to note that he thought my friend was pretty and I just replied with a simple she knows it too.

He then went further to say that she is prettier and to that I just replied with “She thinks she is prettier and I think I am prettier. That’s the beauty of beauty. It’s subjective.”

He was so shocked, visibly and audibly. He asked in return “you think you are prettier?” At this point, I wasn’t even sure what to say. Why has it become so mind-boggling in society to like yourself?

Nobody will ever be perfect and being self aware of your flaws is always a good thing. But non of this has to be at the expense of your vision of yourself. You should like yourself and you can like yourself.

Why is someone else liking themselves supposed to be the end of you liking yourself? Why is there competition where there is no end goal or race? Why do we reduce ourselves when other people enhance themselves as if their success and our are mutually exclusive.

The true beauty of it all is that we can both be prettier. Why can’t she love the way she looks along with me loving my look. If I based my feelings of myself when I heard hers, then I would never have any clear vision of myself. I would just be bouncing around flip flopping how I feel based on how insecure the people around me are. That’s is hardly a way to live.

There’s no reason to live like that anyway. The next time someone tries to put you down, don’t just blindly take it. Think about the following:

– What did you think of yourself before?

– Why should it change based on what they said?

– Nothing they say should reduce your vision of yourself. Sure they could have good constructive criticism, but that means you can improve what’s already a good start.

– Nobody is better than you and you are not better than anyone else. This is a hard to accept fact for many people, but it is true. You are special! Just remember that this realization doesn’t take away from how special other people are too!

Needless to say, I won’t be spending much time with that old friend. Of someone brings a toxic energy in your life, you can walk away without being mean or rude. And once again you should 😌

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